If you hang around me long enough, you will hear names like Dr. Brene Brown, Brendon Burchard, Bryant McGill, Dr. Steve Maraboli–all of whom are either therapists or motivational speakers. Are they the know all, end all of knowledge and treatments? No. What they do have is insight, wisdom, common sense, and practicality while at the same time acknowledging and embracing fear, challenges, radical thinking and over coming mediocrity.

After reading several of Dr. Brown’s books and listening to a multitude of TED Talks…she really is my favorite “go to” person (outside of my core friends), when I need a reality check, smack upside the head, encouragement and guidance.  A sample of her wisdom is below.

We all struggle with weaknesses, fears, doubts of our self worth, etc. from time to time and that’s to be expected in life. We do experience disappointments in ourselves and from others, but we usually learn the lesson quickly and bounce back better than ever.

Some people I know, however, are suffering from crippling depression, anxiety, lack of confidence, low self-esteem, alcoholism, addictions, abusive relationships and paralyzingly fear.  A few, sadly, are experiencing several of these things at the same time. Yes, my brain can be a chaotic hot mess at times, but I can’t begin to imagine what is happening in their heads. Left alone, these things begin to impact their hearts, souls, bodies, health and behaviors.

As friends or family, we try to be supportive but it is not always easy to know what to say or do. Sometimes, you want to throw up your hands and walk away. Sometimes you want to yell at them (sorry for that yesterday my friend but yes, I did need to get down, dirty and blunt with you). Sometimes you want to just hug them, pray with them and wish that you could wave the magic wand and make all the troubles disappear.

When I don’t know what to do, I remember in my darkest times that the best therapy was to surround myself with good, strong, loving people who knew when to hold me tight, or just sit with me quietly and be there when I was ready to talk. I try not to judge (I do fail at this sometimes and it is one of my resolutions) as I don’t walk in their shoes. I just need to love them (well sometimes yes, you do need to get tough…it’s the art of knowing when to take what action that is important).

In case no one has told you today: You are beautiful, loved, needed, strong, valuable, worthy and enough. Please don’t give up.

I leave you today with food for thought from Dr. Brown. Read and re-read several times. Have a blessed day and fun weekend! Go out and spread a whole lot of love in this chaotic world!

K

 

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