We all have moments (or years) when we get stuck in our heads. Welcome to the chaos. We get stuck in the past, we worry about the future, we over-think everything to death. It’s reached a level far beyond pondering about life, goals, dreams, what’s for dinner, etc. Nope, it’s nothing sweet and pretty but instead, we have moved into worry-based thinking. Oh, do I know about the over thinking. If I had a dollar for every time my close girlfriends told me to get out of my head…well I couldn’t retire, but maybe take a nice vacation! Gotta get out of our heads!
It’s been said that people who are trapped within their heads would rather suffer physical pain than the pain of the endless battle of thoughts and internal conversations manipulating their minds. This is not a way to live. So, what can we do to avoid this trap? We begin by moving into the present.
The natural inclination would be to just push these thoughts and conversations out of the way, kind of like quitting cold turkey. I am suggesting that we have to confront these thoughts first. In doing so, we can get to the root of why we have obsessively allowed them to control us. Choose a quiet place, find a trail on which to walk, float in a pool, start a painting…whatever or wherever allows you to find some calm amid the cacophony.
Was it the practice while growing up to be told to keep your feelings hidden? This can become quite toxic as hiding our feelings and emotions means we never fully confront them so they become like an out-of-control top, a wildly spinning whirling dervish. By talking about these thoughts with family, friends or a professional person, we can not only process them, we can move on from them more easily.
We must be careful not to get so caught up in our introspection that we are replaying an endless cycle of self-examination. Focus instead on becoming a storyteller. Fit your thoughts, ideas and concepts into a story. Stories have beginnings, middles, and endings so that, when we are finished, we can put the book (or thought) down and move away.
It’s okay to overstep boundaries occasionally. We all know people who ask questions that might seem a bit off-putting or slightly offensive even. Amazingly though, once the ? wears off, we just might find that stating the answer out loud is honestly refreshing and may even lift a weight off of our shoulders.
Take a leap and start a conversation with a stranger. We spend so much time these days with our heads down looking at a smartphone or tablet, when really, we are longing for connection not found in an inanimate object. This sharing may be just the boost we need to get out of our heads. Dialogue with others and not just ourselves is necessary to our physical, mental, and emotional well-being. Don’t be afraid to strike up a conversation with someone new; at a minimum, you took a risk and felt momentarily unburdened, or you just may have found a new friend (all the best relationships began with two strangers, right?).
Here are some other tips to help:
- Consistent and intentional effort
- Getting enough sleep
- Be flexible; see different perspectives rather than having an inflexible mindset (that creates more anxiety)
- Be aware of words like always, but, never, & everything
- Catch the catastrophic thought before it catches you
- Do not over-explain anything
- Visualize calm
- Use a positive mantra often: they may be quite simple such as “I am calm”, “I am at peace”
- Use a white noise app; even a few minutes can be calming and bring us back to the present
- Focus on someone else; when in our minds, we are often obsessing about ourselves
- Helping someone else shifts the focus away from our minds
If you don’t have anyone to talk with on a frequent basis, Lightworker Lifestyle suggests confronting these thoughts or questions yourself by asking:
- Do I believe this thought?
- Where does this thought come from? Is it mine or someone else’s?
- What can I learn from it? What is it trying to teach me?
- Am I ready to release the thought, does it serve me?
- Is my ego attached to the thought?
- If I believe it, for how long, where has it come from and has it served its purpose?
- Am I ready to lt go and begin to heal?
“Self-discipline begins with the mastery of your thoughts. If you don’t control what you think, you can’t control what you do.”
”Knowing others is wisdom, knowing ourselves is enlightenment.” ~Laozi
Today is the day we move forward and get out of our heads. Work to think for ourselves, not about ourselves. Trust me, we are good enough, beautiful enough, worthy enough, etc. There’s plenty of good things out there to think about. Let’s not get lost in battle with ourselves!